MM > FAQs > I'm on my way, but... (brief)
I'm on my way, but...Brief answers • Full answers | |
| I don’t want 3 or 4 beers, I want 6 or 8. | OK. |
| My family is pressuring me. What can I tell them? | "I'm responsible." |
| Telling myself "I can’t drink today" makes me want it more. | Welcome to ambivalence! |
| Abstaining feels edgy, awful, sleep-disturbed, anxious. Is this normal? | That's not unusual. |
| My slip-ups and failures prove I need to be harder on myself, punish myself more, right? | Not necessarily. |
| I’m so frustrated because I am in failure mode. I just keep drinking despite my resolve not to. | Stop and evaluate. |
| I’m worried about "freshman euphoria". This seems too easy! | Excellent! |
| I feel deprived when I'm not drinking. | Reframe it! |
| Can I just do a 30 and be done with it? | Nope. |
| How long does it take to really moderate? | That varies. |
| I’ve hit a plateau -- a bit of progress made, but not enough, and I’m feeling stuck -- what now? | Examine it. |
| Moderation: A result? An event? | No, a process. |
| Not drinking (or drinking less) feels artificial, contrived. What now? | Think about it. |
| Will I always have to be obsessed about drinking moderately? | Yes and no. |
| What about backsliding? Relapsing? | They're natural. |
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Revised 07.26.2003 mm@moderation.org