Welcome to MM!
No matter how you got here, we hope you'll find us diverse, caring, flexible, and non-judgmental. We're also funny, smart and most of us don't like to be told what to do. Some of us have been here for years, but many people join weekly so there are always lots of newer folks here too. We are a group of equals, so the minute you "stepped through the door" of MM you became just as valued and important as everyone else.
At any time of the day or night, 365 days a year, you and all MM members can send emails ("posts") that can be read by every other MM'er ("posting to the list"). The MM community is a place to share our experiences and thoughts, to give each other encouragement and support, and sometimes just to be around other people who understand what it's like to face the real-world challenges of managing our drinking.
You will soon be receiving an information letter detailing some of the more common questions (such as how to post to the list, tips on managing your email, some suggested "next steps", etc.). You're encouraged to read through it to get the most you can out of your MM experience, and hopefully, as so many others have already discovered, you will find this to be a uniquely helpful and one-of-a-kind place.
Belonging to MM is all about making good choices. We're glad you've chosen to join us!
The MM Welcome Message Team (Ana, David, Goldie, John, Kurt)
Hi, and again welcome to MM!
Please save (and/or print) this message, as it contains some important and useful information, including:
** How the MM email list (listserv) works
** Managing your email
** Valuable Resources on the Web Site
** More ways to meet up with other MM'ers (Face to Face & Online Chat)
** Next steps
** HOW THE MM EMAIL LIST (LISTSERV) WORKS:
* SENDING EMAIL TO THE LIST
To create a NEW email that will go to the whole list... - Click on [Compose] or [New] (depending on your particular email). - Type firstname.lastname@example.org in the "To" box. - Type something in the "Subject" box. - Compose your email. - Click [Send]
To send a REPLY to a post that will go to the whole list... - Click on [Reply all] or [Reply all]. Hitting [Reply] will not send your message to the entire list, just to the individual. - Click into the "To" box and delete any addresses except email@example.com. - Add your reply (usually to the top of the original email). Include only the post, or the part of it, that you're responding to, in your reply. That makes it easier to read and our listserv has a size limit to each message. - Click [Send]
Problems? Email your questions to:
- AN INTRODUCTION: After you've signed up, say hi and tell us a bit about yourself. Or just hang out and ?listen? for a while. Whenever you feel comfortable, we welcome your participation on the list.
- POSTING LIMITS: No one post can be over 20K in size (which also means no attachments), and MM limits the total number of posts from each member to no more than 20 posts in any one day.
- WHAT ABOUT MISTAKES? Don't be the least bit concerned about making mistakes in spelling or grammar or composition. This isn't a contest and nobody is grading you!
- OFF-TOPIC POSTS: Almost any topic is OK to discuss, but if it clearly has NOTHING to do with drinking (like sharing a good joke or Aunt Mildred's pie recipe) then please put "OT" in the subject line.
- POSTING ETIQUETTE. Be honest, but be respectful. It's OK to be direct - we're all adults here - but it's NOT OK to attack or belittle another MM member. It's good to avoid things that we all know could easily lead to controversy (such as conversations about politics or religion). Profanity is discouraged--be creative or use asterisks.
SOLICITATIONS: Misuse of the MM email list is rare. However, if you receive any emails addressed only to you that are asking for money, enticing you to join other non-MM groups, or any other inappropriate solicitations, please report it to
COMMON TERMS USED:
- Abs (Abstaining from drinking)
- BTB (By The Book moderation), refers to the book "Responsible Drinking" and means drinking no more than 3 drinks a day and 9 a week for women, or 4 a day and 14 a week for men, with at least 3 or 4 non-drinking days a week.
- F2F (refers to live, "face to face" meetings, available in some areas)
- Doing a 30 (going 30 days without drinking)
- Mod or Mods (Moderate drinking)
- MOP (My Own Plan, individual whatever-works-for-me plan)
- Newbie (a newcomer)
- Oldie or Oldbie (someone who has been with MM for a while)
- OT (Off Topic, not in any way related to MM or drinking)
- PUI (Posting Under the Influence)
- RD (the book "Responsible Drinking")
- HR (Harm Reduction)
- DW / DH (Dear Wife / Dear Husband)
- SO (Significant Other)
- IMHO / IMO (In My Humble Opinion / In My Opinion)
- LOL (Laughing Out Loud, also used to indicate that what preceded "LOL" was meant in jest)
There are many others, you'll catch on. (We make up new one’s all the time.) Just ask if you need somebody to clarify.
MANAGING YOUR EMAIL:
* Will my posts show up somewhere else?
We periodically survey searches on Google to check that list messages are not being copied anywhere outside our systems. We also check other services. (Yahoo, MSN, etc.) To date, we have found NO evidence that any Listserv messages or archives are being indexed by any search engine. In other words, list messages are not ?google-able.?
- Protecting your privacy with an anonymous email account:
Many users have found using free email accounts from Google's Gmail, Yahoo mail, or Hotmail helps protect privacy. These accounts can be set to send mail with any name you choose; subscribers need not use their "real names" when posting to the Listserv. If you originally signed up with a name or address you'd prefer to keep private, just go to http://www.moderation.org/online/listserv.html
, and 1) un-subscribe your private address and 2) subscribe again with your new address.
*Choosing how MM email comes to you...
See the Online Groups page for the Listserv Management Form (VERY SIMPLE), and a collection of user guides and other materials: /online/listserv.html
You may receive your MM email in either REGULAR or DIGEST options. With the REGULAR option, you'll receive individual posts as soon as they're sent. This is what most people use and is the best option if you want to dive right in. If you choose the DIGEST option you'll receive one long email containing about 25 messages either once a day or a few times each day (depending on list volume).
* You want no more MM list email?
On the http://www.moderation.org/online/listserv.html
page you can choose to temporarily go "No Mail" while you're on vacation or just want to stop receiving MM email f or a while. You can change your subscription back to REGULAR or DIGEST delivery whenever you want to begin receiving MM email again.
To unsubscribe and leave MM: Go to http://www.moderation.org/online/listserv.html
, enter your email address under "To un-subscribe:" then click on [UNSUBSCRIBE - Leave the MM Listserv]. You will need to respond to an email confirmation.
For a listing of lower volume, special interest MM groups go to http://www.moderation.org/online/relatedgroups.html
VALUABLE RESOURCES ON THE MM WEBSITE
(and some links that aren't):
* The FAQ page is highly recommended. It is packed full of advice and experiences of successful MM'ers. Go to: http://www.moderation.org/faq/
* The "Recommended Reading" page has lots of book listings and links and ordering information. ( If you order a book or anything else through the Amazon or Barnes & Noble links on this page, MM will get a small percentage of the price.) The books page is here: http://www.moderation.org/readings/books.html
?* OTHER GREAT STUFF
- For a DRINKING DEPENDENCE QUESTIONNAIRE:
For a GUIDE to MODERATION and WORKSHEETS to record daily drinks and other changes: http://www.moderation.org/about_mm/steps_of_change.html - Want to find a THERAPIST who'll support moderate drinking? :
* MM ABSTAR:
This is a tool many of us use to track our daily intake and ABS (abstaining) days. You can have a private or a public record It is located at: http://abstar.org
OR at http://www.moderation.org/abstar/
*Need to contact MM admin with any other questions?
MORE WAYS TO MEET UP WITH OTHER MM'ERS (Face to Face & Online Chat)
* FACE TO FACE GROUPS: (and Phone Meetings)
To find out if there's an MM meeting near you go to this link:
You can chat on-line in "real time" with other MM members. There are regularly scheduled chats, both "formal on-line meetings" and "social" chats. Plus, the chat room is open 24 hours a day, so feel free to check into chat any time you want and chat with anyone else who might be there.
- To go into chat and/or find schedules, go to this link: http://www.moderation.org/chat/
- Caution: The MM chat is open to the public, so it's a good idea to limit any personal information that you share. Please be cautious of anyone trying to solicit money from you and/or entice you to join other groups or chats that are not affiliated with MM. If it's not on the chat link above, it's not a MM chat room. ONLY groups that are listed at http://www.moderation.org/online/relatedgroups.html are affiliated with MM.
- If you have questions or problems using chat, or feel anyone is abusing chat, please firstname.lastname@example.org
** NEXT STEPS
A common question is "what should I do first or next?" There are no "shoulds" here. There's no right or wrong way. You're on a journey, and the only one who can decide where you're headed and how you might best get there is YOU! But here are some great suggestions:
- You've already signed up to this list, so you've already done the first best thing for yourself!
- Just thinking about change is a good starting place.
- Gather information. Make small changes; "baby steps."
- Changing your drinking habits doesn't happen all at once.
- Hang out on the list and read, write and absorb.
- Post to the list.
- Focus your motivation to change. Write it down.
- Get *Responsible Drinking* (order online: http://www.moderation.org/readings/books.html
- Start recording your daily/weekly drinking.
- If you're a daily drinker, start putting a no-drinking day into your week.
- Start cutting down the number of drinks in any one day, even if just a little.
If you have questions about how MM works, or how others have handled certain drinking issues, or pretty much ANY question or comment about almost anything you can think of, POST IT TO THE LIST. You may be surprised to find out that there are many others who have gone through, and are STILL dealing with, situations very much the same as your own.
This isn't just "the" MM list, this is *YOUR* MM list... Welcome!
From the MM Welcome Message Team (John & Goldie & David & Ana & Kurt)
The Moderation Management Email Directory:
Please refer any technical questions about MMLIST
using our contact form and the link below: