New York Times Article: Excessive Drinking Rose During Pandemic

“My drinking has increased during Covid!” At MM, we’ve been hearing this phrase often in the last year. People who were comfortable with their relationship with alcohol pre-Covid, are now concerned, but they don’t believe this situational increase means they need to quit completely.  They are looking for alternative to AA and abstinence-based programs. They are looking for moderation support to get their drinking back on track to pre-Covid amounts.

In this article, MM Member, Gordon M., relates how anxiety during the pandemic and talk of pending financial doom caused an escalation in his drinking. Not wanting to abstain, he turned to MM for support.  Shortly after joining MM, he jumped onboard for Dryuary.

““I’m happy to say that I haven’t had a drink this year, and I feel a lot better: I sleep better, and I can get more things done,” he said. “The nice thing about this moderation group is that it’s not an all-or-nothing ‘You can never drink again or you’re a failed alcoholic’ approach.”

If you can relate to others who are saying with concern, “My drinking has increased during Covid, but I don’t want to quit, MM is here for you.

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Moderation In The Spotlight

Demi Lovato sparked a firestorm of controversy recently when she revealed in her documentary, Dancing with the Devil, that she is choosing moderation as her recovery strategy.

In the documentary, Lovato and her inner circle, share the harrowing story of her 2018 near-fatal overdose. The four-part series aired on YouTube with the first two episodes released on March 23rd and the third and fourth being released on March 30th and April 6th respectively. The project has met with mixed reviews: some herald Lovato’s openness and courage, others wonder if it’s more about publicity than a “deep dive into addressing her inner demons.” [1]

It’s in the final episode, “Rebirthing” that Lovato talks about her choice to explore moderation.

“I’ve learned that shutting the door on things makes me want to open the door even more,” Lovato explains of her approach to sobriety. “I know I’m done with the stuff that’s going to kill me.” She is lenient with herself when it comes to marijuana and drinking in moderation, in an effort to understand what works for her.[2]

Some of the skeptics point to Lovato’s history of drug abuse as a reason to judge her current decision to moderate alcohol. Since 2010, Lovato has a history of substance abuse, receiving treatment in rehabs, relapsing, and regaining sobriety. Her family and closest friends, believe she is in a different place now.  Watching the film, what stood out is Lovato’s focus on taking care of her own mental health. The singer suffers from depression and says that she has to remain vigilant every day and stays in close communication with her therapist and case manager when she’s struggling emotionally.

In his book, The Abstinence Myth,  Dr. Adi Jaffe asserts that “true recovery isn’t about abstinence or sticking with a recovery program”[3]  Jaffe cites the definition of recovery provided by SAMHSA (The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration), the government office dedicated to improving mental health and addiction in the US, which says that “recovery is a process of change through which individuals improve their health and wellness, live self-directed lives and strive to reach their full potential.”[4]

Lovato’s documentary has stirred up the conversation again on whether or not abstinence is the only viable path to recovery. Perhaps the more appropriate question to ask is: Is Demi Lovato changing? Is she improving her health and wellness? Is she living a self-directed life?  Is she reaching her full potential?  Time will tell, but Dancing with the Devil reflects hope and shines the light on a different path to recovery.

Written by Molly Watts

Breaking the Bottle Legacy


[1] Singleton, Dewey (March 18, 2021). “SXSW Review: ‘Demi Lovato: Dancing with the Devil’ is more concerned about appearances than battling demons”


[3] Jaffe, Adi. The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach For Overcoming Addiction Without Shame, Judgment, Or Rules (p. 59). IGNTD Press. Kindle Edition.

[4] Jaffe, Adi. The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach For Overcoming Addiction Without Shame, Judgment, Or Rules (p. 53). IGNTD Press. Kindle Edition.

My Ongoing Journey To Reduce Drinking With MM: Podcast Interview with Mary Reid (aka Kary May) Executive Director of MM

Podcast of Interview with Mary Reid, MM Executive Director

A couple of weeks ago, I sat down with Molly Watts at Breaking the Bottle Legacy to discuss how it was that I came to Moderation Management (MM) 12 years ago, desperate to reduce my drinking, and where the last twelve years have brought me. It’s been an amazing ride, admittedly bumpy at times, but I now realize those bumps got me where I needed to go-maybe even quicker than I would have gotten there without the bumps. Moderation is not a final destiny, it is a continual journey. I continue that journey on a daily basis, as a member, with the support of the MM communities.  MM is not steps or rules, the members of our communities are MM. MM is the place where we don’t tell each other what to do, instead we share what we have done, what has worked for us and what hasn’t, all the while acknowledging that what works for one does not work for all and that we are all fascinating and unique. We learn from each other while we support each other. We share our most effective tools to reduce drinking. We cheer each other one and we pick each other up.

Mary Reid aka Kary May